A Love that will Last

Ever been in love with love? I have. Well, I was circa 1999- 2003. I thought I had it figured out, believed myself to have some sort of Ph.D when it came to explaining how it worked. Silly me. It was juvenile to think that because I watched Sleeping Beauty wake up from a kiss (hopefully she didn't have morning breath), Ariel being able to walk on land (did she smell like a fish?), Snow white roused from her "food poisoning", Cinderella correcting her footwear drama and the like- I thought, I knew how love worked. Ha ha. Fairy Tales only talk about "Happily Ever After" they never really touch the subject of what happens after "Happily Ever After"- makes you think right?.
The folks at Disney finally got their facts right when they made "Enchanted". Yes, Prince Charming may be dreamy, but that is how he is packaged. He's an action figure complete with the right accessories: the horse, the sword, the velvet fabric and gold detailing on his outfit, the boots, gorgeous face, bumbling sidekick / servant- the singing voice is a plus. By the way, didn't anybody ever think that Prince Charming may just be a dude with a hero complex? I mean, hello???? saving damsels from dragons, trolls and what other creature made to torment "helpless" maidens... I bet the guy gets a high from kicking butt, not from saving the pretty lady.
And what's with the "helpless" maiden part anyway? I'm sorry, it's not because I'm a girl or anything, but I can save myself buddy... hand me the sword and stand back.
Yes, the years of err "dating" has anesthetized me from the excruciating truth that ... gasp! men at this present day and age are more likely to do the terrorizing than the saving. Misanthropic much? not really. Okay, not all guys (sheesh)
Anyway, I think the Prince Charming species have been wiped out by some meteor or genetic mutation. Chivalry is dead ladies, or it needs to be resuscitated.
What's my point exactly? Well, in Enchanted, the maiden (Giselle) got a pretty huge reality check. She was all- "I've been dreaming of a true love's kiss and a Prince I'm hoping comes with this" and then she meets him (Edward) and after what? ten minutes / seconds after they meet, the guy decides they should get married. But then Edy boy's step mum, the evil queen (Nerissa) decides to push our damsel into a well and sends her on a one-way trip to New York (in the middle of Time Square to boot).

side comment: Where exactly is this well? I ought to jump in there, beats buying a plane ticket....

Moving on, Giselle then meets this Divorce Lawyer, forgot his name (played by McDreamy himself) and he's all weirded out that Giselle is all "Butterflies and Rainbows" in other words, kind of nuts or she sounds like a person who ought to be thrown in the loony bin.
In the course of the tale, McDreamy informs Giselle that love is a lot more complicated, he then introduces the idea of "dating" going out for dinner and talking etc.
Giselle gets her chance to have her date with Edward, and surprise, surprise she realizes that they don't have a lot in common (and he's a total ditz) haha! I mean, the chipmunk seemed smarter, though, in Edward's defense, he was soooooo dreamy.
Do I need to tell you more? It's a forgone conclusion right? Giselle has a major epiphany that she's in love with the jaded Divorce Lawyer...Oooh and she ends up saving the day after the evil queen turns into a dragon and grabs our "dude" in distress.

There you go. The lesson my dear disenchanted audience is: Happily Ever After is a ruse to make kids believe that love is all- to use my previous description "Butterflies and Rainbows". It's not. but they will figure it out on their own, it's Ok if they believe that...

Love is actually a chemical imbalance in the brain (to quote a passage from Every Boy's Got One) It begins with the "attraction factor" thanks to Phenylethylamines. But again, it wears off. It's quite the same as ingesting large quantities of chocolate.
Yeah, single ladies, hear that? go crazy with the chocolate... it's the same.
What makes romantic love last? Endorphins... or to put it in fairly simple terms... You have to make love (not sex exactly) I mean "create love" and remake it. Keep it fresh, as it were.

It's not easy really. It's not as simple as how the classic fairy tales make it look. Sure, you bicker, get tired of each other, quirks drive you stark raving mad, you become busy and uh... women become monsters five days (give or take) every month (sorry guys, we can't help it) but hey... a kiss, hug, and whatever moments that you can have will always remind you why you love that person in the first place. (Eww.... the sugar is giving me a toothache)
It's true. It's about fighting (not killing each other or beating each other up) by fighting, I mean, you defend your relationship, even if the other is about to give up and even if you're also about to throw in the towel too.
It is complicated, but according to my Anthropology teacher

"You have to get hurt when you love someone, it is the only way to make you appreciate it, to make you aware that ' this is it' you're worthy of having it in your possession because you're fighting to keep it. It won't be fun all the time, but not a lot of people get to experience they joy and frustration of loving someone. You should be grateful to be one of the lucky few who get to feel that way"

Okay, he wasn't exactly that eloquent, but that is my spin to his take on love.
So you see, I have grown up. I still think fairy tales are cool (did I actually use that term?) yeah, they are great. The difference now that I am uhem... 21 years old is I'm not waiting on my "Happily Ever After" anymore.

What do I want?
I've made it obvious...
Here it is in a song...

I want a little something more
Don't want the middle or the one before
I don't desire a complicated past
I want a love that will last

Say that you love
Say im the one
Don't kiss and hug me and then try to run
I don't do drama
My tears don't fall fast
I want a love that will last

(Chorus)
I don't want a just a memory
Gives me forever
Don't even think about saying good-bye
Cuz i want just one love to be enough
And remain in my heart till i die


So call me romantic
Oh i guess that must be so
Theres something more that you oughta know
I'll never leave you
So don't even ask
I want a love that will last

Forever
I want a love that will last
I want a love that will last

(Chorus)
I don't want a just a memory
Give me forever
Don't even think about saying good-bye
Cuz i want just one love to be enough
And remain in my heart till i die

So theres little more that i need
I wanna share all the air you breathe
I'm not the kinda girl to complicate the past
I want a love that will last

Forever
I want a love the love that last
Always
I just want a love that will last
Want a love that will last

Artist: Renee Olstead
Song: A Love That Will Last

There. hopefully I don't sound so bloody maudlin.

The End