Honorable Men 2

“One of the common failings among honorable people is a failure to appreciate how thoroughly dishonorable some other people can be, and how dangerous it is to trust them”

~Thomas Sowell~

I'm back to the topic of honorable men, why? well, because I have come to discern the essence of what makes a man- A MAN.

I know one man in particullar whom I am quite lucky to have in my life. He's the paragon of men. A man that a woman can truly depend on both during the good times and the bad.

When the first Superman movie came out I was frequently asked "What is a hero?"…My answer was that a hero is someone who commits a courageous action without considering the consequences…
Now my definition is completely different.

I think a hero is an ordinary individual who finds strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.... ~Christopher Reeve~

Growing up I was often fascinated by the idea of “Prince Charming”, okay, that's not entirely true, I was obsessed with the idea of Prince Charming. You can't blame me, I suppose every girl has a thing for him. Perhaps Disney should be blamed for the hype over this guy... As I grew up, this obsession was further fed by all the romance novels that I read- talking about dashing and rather passionate men sweeping women off their feet, fighting duels in their honor, and dazzling them with him charm... Seriously, who wouldn't want that?

As of late, I am compelled to reflect on my crazy idolatry for Prince Charming. This fellow has been such a fascination to me that I hoped and prayed that I would someday meet him... Alas... No man with a white horse ever graced my doorstep (SIGH).

As I grew up, I realized it's a little far-fetched, even short of quixotic to believe that such a person exists, but in time as I gained a little bit of experience, certain situations have allowed me to take off the rose tinted glasses and see the big picture. The Prince Charming of the past is extinct, but we still have living breathing normal men today who have certain qualities that fit the category... Hmm... actually, I didn't want Prince Charming, I wanted a real man...A man of honor...

The pickings are slim though...

You see, there are men out there who love to claim that they are honorable, who puff themselves up like proud turkeys, boasting of their strength and valor, and when the first test of adversity comes, he cowers like a chicken that got its head cut off. Running whichever way he can, not knowing where to go or what to do.

Women can defend themselves well enough in this day and age, we don't need to be saved from dragons and villains all the time, but there are moments when we do need to be saved.

I can tell you of a man that any woman would love to possess. He is not the type who would impulsively break bones, pick fights, or engage in verbal battles for her - he should be smart enough to know what to do and how to act. Men who simply plow through situations like enraged bulls are just testosterone morons. A real man would know to take into account every aspect, angle, & detail of certain problems or situations before jumping into the fray.

Women need men who are knights in shining armor, Not a knight in shining tin can, who is very much still a boy...

What makes someone a real man?

A man who prides himself through his strength, his material possessions, the job he has, or the number of women he has taken to bed... is not a man!!!

Take all of that away, what are you left with? Some insecure fellow who defines himself with all his accomplishments, conquests, and possessions. That is all he is, that is his identity.

No, no... A man is someone who owns and uses the most vital gifts that he possesses, his mind and his heart. The mind is probably the most important one he can utilize.f y

are a man of honor, your actions are alwd, but as a whole, you are For neither birth, nor wealth, nor honors, can awaken in the minds of men the principles which should guide those who from their youth aspire to an honorable and excellent life, as Love awakens them” ~Plato~

re's my take on men of honor, they should live by this code:

That which is truthful, uphold it.
That which is right, fight for it.
Protect the weak, avenge the persecuted.
Live your life vicariously by doing the right things - always keep your integrity intact.
Always believe in yourself, never allow any hint of doubt to corrode your spirit.
Hate is the most powerful emotion, the exact opposite of love. Never allow yourself to succumb to the feeling. Always believe that greater things are achieved through love than hate.
Love a woman with all your heart, leave no room for anything else. For the greatest act of perfidy you can commit to a woman is to never uphold the vow to cherish her.
Live life everyday with the knowledge that you are leaving a legacy to everyone, most especially the people who love you. Live your life well, for you will be remembered for the things that you did, not the things that you planned to do.
Regret is one feeling that always happens when it is just too late to change things...
Seize every moment to seal your name in the hearts of others.
Or die with regrets & be forgotten...