We've all heard of the saying "Always the bride's maid never the bride" well, here's another one worth pondering on: "Always the friend, never the one".
It's the fault of the movie "My Best Friend's Wedding"- why? I'm getting ahead of myself. A couple of years ago I would have called myself the most hapless human being on the planet, there I was again in the situation called the "danger zone" wherein I was friends with a guy (very close friends, I might add) who for the love of all things painful was in love with someone else. I've been in the danger zone all for most of my teenage life, and that's when I came up with the "My Best Friend's Wedding" theory- that was my life, my curse, my only fate.
"Why does this always happen to me?" I asked, sadly, no voice ever answered, indicating that discovering the reason for my haplessness was left yet again for me to sniff out.
"What is wrong with me?" I wondered. "Why can't I find a decent guy to actually find me worthy?" (pathetic, I know). But that was my life, I lived in the sidelines of the lives of the men whom I could not seem to get to give me the time of day. SIGH. I was always the girl chasing after the guy who was also chasing after someone else, and all I wanted was for him to look back, see me and stop running.
Remember that scene wherein Julia Robert's character was chasing after her best friend and she calls her gay friend George to whine and tells her:
George: Jules, you're chasing Michael
Julia: Yes
George: Michael is chasing Kimi
Julia: Yes
George: Who is chasing you? Nobody, get it? You're not the one Jules...
I think I have had about enough of all the melodrama....
After watching the movie for the billionth time, I finally got it into my system that nobody was chasing after me and it was quite futile to chase after someone else.
Actually, this blog is not made for my benefit, it is for all the girls, and hmm... guys out there stuck in the danger zone. You see, the mistake I made was I never really allowed myself to do something about my situation, granted that the dude was in love with somebody else, I definitely had no right to do anything about it- but during the the time when he got out of that relationship, I didn't do anything either. Why? I was scared.
Here's another fun line from the movie:
Michael: When you love somebody you tell them, you tell them right then and there, or the moment just passes you by.
That's the lesson there kids, when you love somebody, you tell them. You don't prevaricate and dance around the subject hoping that they will get a hint. We may have evolved people, but we have not developed the ability to read minds yet, so, it would be great if you actually said the words out loud. Lost chances and moments of regret, not to mention the good old "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda" moment. I should've done this, could've done that, I would've had him/her bla bla... Regret only comes in the end people, we can't always allow ourselves to live on what might and could've been- IF ONLY....
Screw that!
I say, Carpe Diem! Grab the moment and just do it. Hey, it may not always turn out the way you expected it. It may blow up in your face, but at least you took the chance, and will not live the rest of your life thinking about what could have happened had you taken that chance.
Here's a song from the movie Rent:
Forget regret, or life is yours to miss
No other road, no other way
No day but today
There's only yes, only tonight
We must let go, to know what's right
No other course, no other way
No day but today
There's only now, there's only here
Give in to love, or live in fear
No other path, no other way
No day but today
No day but today
No day but today
Truth is, we only have NOW. Tomorrow is a mystery and we never know what might happen. There is no other day but today to tell the person that you love how you feel, or to choose to live a life free from the person who doesn't love you to give some other person a chance to truly make you happy. It's your choice.
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