LOve & CHoCoLatES

I look at him and wonder what he's thinking about. He smiles and something inside me just melts. Melting like chocolate on a hot summer day. You see, he has the most beautiful eyes, that lights up as he looks at me, and I'm always awed by the warmth that I find in it's amber depths. Not a word is spoken, but a question is in my mind “What are you thinking about?”. He doesn't answer out loud, but in his eyes I see something, the warmth is spreading and he quirks a brow at me. As if reading his mind, I smile back, because I know what he is thinking about- I stifle the urge to laugh. Somehow we have acquired the power to read each other's minds, it's a rather odd thing really, but it is what ties us together.

We're both silent. He's sitting, playing with his DS and I'm trying to read my book. He takes my hand and we just sit there in companionable silence, which is often broken by the ruckus going around, we both look up and then continue with what we were previously doing, still holding hands.

We love to eat, I greatly enjoy those moments wherein he just spoils me with all kinds of treats. I enjoy stealing food from his plate and he doesn't seem to mind at all, in fact, he finds it adorable- there's that smile again.

I love those moments when I wake up and find him sitting on my bed smiling at me, then I fall back into the world of dreams, comforted by the fact that he's just there beside me.

Just like Sleeping Beauty, I am often awakened by a kiss. In my languorous state, I open one eye, and smile. “Wake up” he says, whining about the hour and how long I have been sleeping. Reluctantly, I get up, only to fall back into bed, ready to sleep again, but he helps me sit up, and I lean on his shoulder to sleep again. He laughs... “Wake up sleepy head...”

Every one seems to believe that you cannot have too much of a good thing- can two people actually be inseparable? Or to borrow Beyonce's popular song: Crazy in love?

I have read that love is overrated, it is biochemically similar to ingesting large quantities of chocolate. Let me break it down for you:

Phenethylamines are the chemicals produced when one is “in love”, (that is what gives us the “high” feeling). It is quite noticeable when a person is in love right? It's called the “cloud nine” phase, wherein you are just in a constant state of bliss fueled by moments spent or lack thereof with your love one, causing you to act like a total softie, floating on air high on the drug called L-O-V-E (scientifically: it's the Phenethylamines that is making you act all googly eyed). Phenethylamines can also be found in foods like? What? CHOCOLATE. You see, being in love is only temporary, because the Phenethylamines that are circulating our system only lasts the duration of 3 months (read that in an article), give or take- yes, the love drug eventually wears off. Which begs the question, is it that easy to fall in and out of love for somebody?

Answer: Yes & No.

Yes, why? Well, It's complicated. You see, there's the element called change, much like the circle of life, that causes mold to grow on bread and what have you, the same powerful forces cause people to change (or is it just human nature?)... Which basically diminishes the love drug. Translation: Sometimes the people we fall in love with... change, in effect, it causes our feelings change and well, people grow apart. In true blue shrink language: uhem...”That would be the time wherein the two people have to reassess their relationship and figure if that perceived void or crossroads in their relationship is worth fixing or it would be healthier for both parties to just go their separate ways and find growth in another relationship.”

Some people are just not meant to be together, it may seem like a perfect match in theory, but hey, take a look at the Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston marriage and so many other Hollywood marriages (well, bad examples) but yeah, no matter how obviously great two people are together, sometimes it just doesn't click. Kind of like Ken and Barbie thing, they didn't choose to be together, Matel made them for each other and created the hype behind their romance. Long story short, couples just have to have that certain “something” that cannot be discerned by others, call it everlasting love or loyalty (whatever), it is something that they have that makes the relationship work, not some cover of perfection.

Now to the No, part. It is not easy to just fall out of love for somebody, because... although the love drug wears off, there's another chemical that keeps love alive- Oxytocin. It is what allows couples to have that bond, which increases trust and empathy- all of which are very important in a relationship. That, my dears, is the certain “something” couples share. It is what allows them to grow old together and still keep that spark alive- yes, it is a wildly idealistic theory, but it is plausible.

So here, I am eating a LOT of chocolate, and the only thought plaguing my mind, is his smile.... and his laugh...his...

He waves his hand in front of me, signaling that I have lapsed into one of my daydreams. "Huh?" I say... "What did I miss?" in answer, He looks at me, and there it is... The unpoken answer, "What was he thinking about as he looked at me???"

The answer to that... Is our little secret.

Si, this is amore...and a song plays in my mind...

When boy meets girl here's what they say
When the moon hits you eye like a big pizza pie
That's amore
When the world seems to shine like you've had too much wine
That's amore
Bells will ring ting-a-ling-a-ling, ting-a-ling-a-ling
And you'll sing "Vita bella"
Hearts will play tippy-tippy-tay, tippy-tippy-tay
Like a gay tarantella
When the stars make you drool just like a pasta fazool
That's amore
When you dance down the street with a cloud at your feet
You're in love
When you walk down in a dream but you know you're not
Dreaming signore
Scuzza me, but you see, back in old Napoli
That's amore
(When the moon hits you eye like a big pizza pie
That's amore
When the world seems to shine like you've had too much wine
That's amore
Bells will ring ting-a-ling-a-ling, ting-a-ling-a-ling
And you'll sing "Vita bella"
Hearts will play tippy-tippy-tay, tippy-tippy-tay
Like a gay tarantella
When the stars make you drool just like a pasta fazool)
That's amore
(When you dance down the street with a cloud at your feet
You're in love
When you walk down in a dream but you know you're not
Dreaming signore
Scuzza me, but you see, back in old Napoli)
That's amore
Lucky fella
When the stars make you drool just like a pasta fazool)
That's amore
(When you dance down the street with a cloud at your feet
You're in love
When you walk down in a dream but you know you're not
Dreaming signore
Scuzza me, but you see, back in old Napoli)
That's amore, (amore)
That's amore