Smart In A Stupid Way

And this is the price that you pay For being smart in a stupid way You stand there staring while your lover walks away Being smart, in a stupid way The doors they close like eyelids The train just pulled away Sometimes I smell the perfume that she was wearing that day And i wonder if there's anyone that I'll ever love in any way Maybe I'll grow up and be good someday Maybe this pain I feel will go away

Song Title: Smart in a Stupid Way
Performed by: Ashlee Simpson and Steven Strait

She feels the blow as he gazes at his lady love, and she wonders why she continues to stare. All his life; she stood by his side, and yet he never knew she was there. Even though she was lucky enough to receive his smiles, she knew they never belonged to her. His touch, his words, his laughter, his melting stare- were ephemeral pieces of heaven that she cherished. But right from the very start, she knew whatever she managed to steal would never be enough, because all that time, all that time another girl had his heart.
As she sat there watching them, she muttered to herself:
"This is my fate, I will always be the girl in love with the man who is loving somebody else."

And this is the price that you pay For being smart in a stupid way You stand there staring while your lover walks away Being smart, in a stupid way So why is my heart so hollow Why are my dreams so shallow And why don't I ever have anything else to say And why is my love so far away

He stares at her, a smiling angel, and wonders why he has lost the ability to breathe. "I'm in love with her" he whispers to himself, "but she's not in love with me". He sits in a darkened room plagued by her smiling face, her laughter echoes amid the gloom, his misery continues for days.

And this is the price that you pay For being smart in a stupid way You stand there staring while your lover walks away Being smart, in a stupid way.


Upon hearing the song "Smart in a Stupid Way" I'm compelled once more to give my insights on the topic of love- or rather the topic on the follies of falling in love.

I'll Never Fall In Love Again Elvis Costello What do you get when you fall in love? A diamond pin to burst your bubble That's what you get for all your trouble I'll never fall in love again I'll never fall in love again What do you get when you kiss a girl You get enough germs to catch pneumonia After you do, she'll never phone you I'll never fall in love again I'll never fall in love again Don't tell me what it's all about 'Cause I've been there and I'm glad I'm out Out of those chains those chains that bind you That is why I'm here to remind you What do you get when you give your heart You get it all broken up and battered That's what you get, a heart that's shattered I'll never fall in love again I'll never fall in love again Out of those chains those chains that bind you That is why I'm here to remind you What do you get when you fall in love? You only get lies and pain and sorrow So for at least until tomorrow I'll never fall in love again I'll never fall in love again I'll never fall in love again

Love opens the heart, blinds the eyes, and clouds the mind. Love can make even the smartest man in the planet loose his/her wits.

Samson allowed Delilah to cut his hair.
Adam took a bite from the forbidden fruit as prompted by Eve.
Caesar and Mark Anthony were charmed and seduced by the alluring Cleopatra.
Katie Holmes converted to Scientology for Tom Cruise.
Tom Cruise jumped on Oprah's couch because of Katie Holmes...

Let's cut to the chase.... When in love, we become crazy, in Tom's case, he was sooo crazy about Katie that he was compelled to show it by jumping up and down on Oprah's couch, which astonished millions of viewers. It was quite a sight that prompted some of the people in the media to mock him and dub him as "unstable" and just downright demented.

This incident gave birth to the phrase "jumping the couch. It's a phrase used to describe someone who makes a total fool out of him/herself in public to the point that it ruins their reputation.

In Tom's defense, the dude was in love. I don't know if it flattered Katie or anything seeing Tom overtly express his feelings for her, but I'm sure a great deal of ladies out there would kill for something like that- though in a more subdued way I suppose.

The point is, before I digressed on and on about Tom Cruise- Love makes us do crazy things, either in a good or bad way.

When You Love Someone Byan Adams When you love someone - youll do anything You'll do all the crazy things that you cant explain You'll shoot the moon - put out the sun When you love someone You'll deny the truth - believe a lie There'll be times that youll believe you can really fly But your lonely nights - have just begun When you love someone When you love someone - youll feel it deep inside And nothing else can ever change your mind When you want someone - when you need someone When you love someone... When you love someone - you'll sacrifice You'd give it everything you got and you wont think twice You'd risk it all - no matter what may come When you love someone You'll shoot the moon - put out the sun When you love someone The thing is, when we allow ourselves to fall in love with someone, actually, our consent is not necessary, we just fall in love period. When that happens, we open up ourselves to the other person. We bear hearts, we become vulnerable- this is the risk we take when we allow ourselves to love. You see, the only way a person can hurt us is when we allow ourselves to care, and yes, to love them. Our hearts break because we give people the right to break them.

The risk is great, but being able to posses love makes it worth it- right?

When you love someone - you'll sacrifice You'd give it everything you got and you wont think twice You'd risk it all - no matter what may come When you love someone

Love makes us smart in a stupid way. People give so much of themselves to the one's they love to the point that they lose track of who they are and eventually this leads to dissatisfaction and disenchantment. People give so much of their time, effort and sacrifice to the one's they love that resentment builds up when their significant others fail to offer the same. Some people pour all their heart and soul onto the person that they love, and become crushed when they realize that it will never be reciprocated.

It is said that in typical relationship, there will always be someone who loves the other more- I see this as a power struggle actually, in a sense that: If one of the two loves the other more... He/ she will forever be the less fortunate of the two. Forever, powerless, crippled by his/her devotion to the other half.

Which begs the question: is there ever an equal division of affection / love in a relationship?
Answer: Yes, not a lot of people are capable of pulling it off, but it's possible.

It's about balance, it's basic give and take, not take and take, then give when it pleases you. When you allow yourself to keep giving without taking even a little bit of something from the other for yourself- you're being smart in a stupid way.

People who wait for the other to say the words "I love you" are being smart in a stupid way, why?

It saves them from the sting of rejection, yet deprives them from the blissful vindication of their feeling being reciprocated.

People who stay in a dead-end relationship (i.e. physically and emotionally abusive relationships) are being smart in a stupid way.

Their already trampled on self-esteem will not permit them to leave, and they have formed some perverse attachment to their significant other believing that "they didn't mean it, and at the end of the day they did the act out of love".

People who allow the one they love to walk away or slip away, are being smart in a stupid way.

They free themselves from the risks that come with love, but live with the regret of letting go of the one they love.

People who cheat on their boyfriend/ girlfriend husbands/wives are being smart in a stupid way.

They find pleasure and excitement in the company of another, while betraying and forsaking those who truly love them.

People who allow the chance of love pass by, are smart in a stupid way,

They will never know the joys or sorrows that come with love, but they will always think about "what might and could've been"

People who give up love to avoid the pain, are being smart in a stupid way.

They live their lives free from pain, but deprive themselves the chance of finding true happiness.

The truth is, when it comes to love, we are all smart in a stupid way. There's no class that teaches us how to love, nobody can teach a person how to love, we just do.


“The wise are wise only because they love. The fool are fools only because they think they can understand love.”

Paulo Coelho quotes